vegetarianism in "Indian culture "

my friends always poke me when we are at some restaurant.... coz everybody over there has ordered there some crunchy , spicy chicken dish and they look to my vegetarian dish as something alien to them .
" i am a vegetarian " and i am proud of that . it is something by choice that till the 24 years of my life i have been  a vegetarian .
i am not promoting vegetarianism here and i would certainly not like people to become vegetarians becoz i do believe it is something of a choice . we all should have a freedom to eat .
vegetarianism in Indian society developed from a very early time and meat eating developed later . earlier Indian society had been living in a sustainable environment . there were trees , fruits , fresh water lakes , loads of food grains therefore Indians never relied on hunting .
on the other hand culture of meat eating developed in semi arid and arid regions were there was not enough of green environment and people had to rely on animals for food . they do not have any choice . and later it became there custom and culture.
all these happened during the evolution of their culture . there are many more examples to explain this . in India we celebrate harvest festivals , it starts with oonam in Kerala with the start of monsoon and ends with poongal in tamil nadu . in all these festivals we prepare food from our first food grains and other things also happen . in north India during lohri it is a custom to put grains in fire which is the first produce from our farms. in makarsakranti we til, gaud , choora .... all these are produced from our fields . whereas in west during thanks giving they have a custom to eat turkey( a bird ) .
in a globalized society which has developed in the recent century , a new multicultural and a multiethnic society has developed and it is easier to get influenced by it but i would still prefer to stick to my culture and stay vegetarian.
" happy eating"

society of India... part 1

my teacher says that "the society is defined by the status and position given to women in that society".
women had always held an important position in the Indian society. if we divide the Indian society chronologically then we find that every period has some important women character around whom the history has evolved. from sita, draupadi, to raazia sultana to rani lakshami bai to indira gandhi.... till the present society. i have given these names because i think some part of evolution of indian society has taken under these very names.
my teacher asked me ,"tell me what are the qualities u liked in sita?" i was struck.. as i didn't know much about her . my fiends helped be by answering that she was the first single mother of india. she took care of both her children luv and kush singlehandedly. she was brought up in the family of janak the great king but when her husband was asked to abandon the throne of ayodhya and move to village she left all the expense and left the rajmahal of ayodhya with her husband. this defines the greatness of the lady who didnt care about her own comfort and left every thing for her husband.
another important character of the pre historic time that i came across in my childhood was lady savitri who as the story tells chased the death god and asked the life of her dead husband and her wish was granted...
all these ladies have made the base of our indian society. they have left a rich heritage for the country.
the society under these womens were a patriarchial society and they maintained the values of the society.. the womens under those times were seen to be complete only when they were married, there mere existence was based on their husbands thas is why sita let the rajmahal and savitri ran for her husbands life..... and womens give their life after the death of her husbans.... the evil sati pratha came in the scenario... and after sometimes it became a culture and womens were forced to sit on the pyre after the death of their husbands.
someune has rightly said "good after some times becomes evil and then it has to be removed"
the indian society also grew with social evis like sat , child marriage . and all these made womens a liability  on indian society... which gave birth to a new social evil female infanticide... alll these have a sequence..
with all these indian society was growing , the women still commanded a good position but they also had a criteria... of giving birth to male heirs.... and those who couldnt were neglected and those who could were given good position in the society. all these strengthened the patriarchy.
some womens even in these times came up who were extraordinary and wanted to bring a change,, but they were few in numbers.... these included the likes of razia sultan, lakshmi bai etc.
the present scenario is also not different.... we still have a patriarchial society in india.
we still neglect their status... they could be wives , they coild be mothers, sisters , girl friends..... but we still have not given them the space to be themselves.... their life revolves around their father and afterwards their husbands... if somebody had a failed marriage the society look down at them.... if girls change their boy fiends the society call them prostitutes....it has become a never ending phenomenon.... a girl moving out in the night with a friend is looked down upon... she is looked as a commodity who could cherish their dreams and the girl is being raped
they are not safe everybody eyes on them. this is the society we are living in. government says eve teasing and rape cases envolve only 4% of the total criminal cases registered so dont make it hyper and create phenomenon in the society. but my question is why even this 4% why cant we have respect for them. why cant we accept them as they are

nudity.. sensuality...and my perspective

all the people in this world are either attracted to some or the other person and we often didnt know what in that person is attracting us towards them . people always ask what do they see in each other that they develop a liking or disliking towards each other.

when i was young my father always asked ,"what do i like in some or what all things do i like".... sometimes he gave me options to choose between things... i didnt knew at that time what he was actually doing... but know as i recall it all was to check my perspective of analyzing things... he wanted to know how i see to things.... he always says that good thing are liked by all. but i could still not get what actually are those things.. i had some attributes of perceiving things and some other have other attributes... like if i see a girl or some other thing and i like something in it ... it may not be that same things are liked by others also...

your day to day approach towards life defines your perspective of seeing things....

this leads us to our topic in nudity... nudity is something which is not talked about openly and has not been debated in public... "MY question has always been does nudity always develops sensuality? " and what is sensuality.. could it make person do grave things which is not permitted in our society...

the other day i was photographs on an fb page which were showing pregnant womens... and they were flaunting there assets.. and couldnt find them sensuous although they were barely wearing anything... some what was that... i then talked to my friend about this and he told me that .... nudity does not always brings sensuality... it takes all other attributes to bring sensuality... " bringing sensuality is a tough job". he then gave a good example that people living in forests barely wears any clothes but do they attract you? and the answer was a big "no".  

from that i come to the conclusion that it is all in your mind.. and how you mould it. in my childhood my father told me a story and it goes like that..." once in ancient times girls were taking bath in an open area and after taking bath they came out to soak there body in the sun as the area was in the forest they were unaware of any human presence.... therefore they were little carefree , suddenly a holy sanyasi came out of nowhere and he was not wearing anything... he may be out of his tapasya... he looked to the ladies and walked away.. the ladies didn't said any thing.... a man was watching this from a atop on seeing this he also stripped himself and walked to the girls... the ladies on seeing him rushed to him and beated him... on asking why they didn't beat the sanyasi.. they said " in the eyes of the sanyasi they saw a small child looking to his mother who is changing cloth... but in his eyes they saw the lust of a man towards a girl.. therefore they beat him..."

therefore the conclusion is nudity is nothing but how you see to things...it has been a topic of discussion on how any one should be dressed.. or what should be the dress code of girls in India as against increasing case of eve teasing and rape... i should say there is a need to develop a culture in the Indian society.. where every body has a place... we live in a society where we have father, mother , sister, girlfriend, girl-"friend", boyfriend , boy-"friend",wife. we should look to our mother as "mother" and wife as a "wife". they have a different role in our life. if we follow this golden rule we could live in a happy and stable society.

one life - one purpose

i had started preparing for the civil services last year....... i joined a coaching institute and met with some very intellectual persons..... but at the end of the day i learnt that they were not really intellectuals..... they all had a purpose... a purpose to excel... a purpose to put before their calibre.... a purpose of serving the nation.... and all these thing conspired them to work and work very hard....
i had a lazy pesonality... and i liked to work easy...... but now i feel that it is taking me to nowwhere ... i am becoming a shit and people are not taking me seriously... and i am very much sacred that a day will come when either i would be put in a thrash of sidlined by the peers around and i really know that how much hard i behave i couldn't take this thing for sure
i my first attempt for the civil service main exam i am getting around 158 . and belonging to gen cat this score could never take me towards my dream...
i know that i have done some terrible mistakes in my first paper . i still remember my teacher jojo matthw sir telling in the class that no one can do all ques in civil service exam but if you stick to the basics you can do at least 50% of the ques.. and i failed to do that
i know my first attempt could be a failure... but i am not losing my hope.
i have a dream... a dream to serve my nation as an ias officer.....
and no one  can take away this dream not even me
i want to make this dream a reality.
we have one life and one purpose to fuilfill... lets do it

life

relationship between a boy and his grandmother has always been good. it is true the grandfathers love their granddaughter and grand mother loves their grandson . i keep searching love in the eyes of the peoples and  i saw "true love" in the eyes of that lady .
i was travelling from mathura to delhi in Punjab mail , and i saw that old lady...... old doesn't mean very old , she must be around 57-63 and she was traveling from warli to rohtak . when i entered the compartment at mathura she was sleeping . as the train started after some stops she woke up.. she was sitting near the window... she might had been very beautiful at her age.... her hairs were blown by the wind.... but ther was something in her eyes.. it just has a different look... even i couldn't find it.....
she was always asking how much time would it take to reach rohtak.... i concluded she must be going to rohtak... in the meantime many vendors were passing through and they were selling a huge number of items from socks to cigrattes, little toys, flowers... every thing.
the lady stopped on of the vendor... she wanted a glowing ball.. the vendor had that ball , but it was too pricey for her ..... she wanted it in 10 rs and vendor was not ready to give it in less than 25 rs..... oh what a poor lady... may be her grandson wanted that ball...... but the lady didn't had enough money..
vendor left her..... after some time another vendor came and this one had a lot of items....but poor one didn't had the glowing ball.... but he had a small glowing bird..... the old lady liked that bird and it was in her budget ....... 10rs glowing bird... she took the bird , checked it thrice and kept it in her small pouch.
she might be thinking how her little one will react....... but she should know that the little has already got a beautiful gift from god. as god made her the grandmother of that child

p.s: got has his own ways

this is me

people like me think a lot....matlab ki chor diya jaye toh chhote reh jayenge... but when it comes to writing i couldnt concerate.... i cannot concentrate in many things.... i love to sit around without doing any thing.... agar koi hobby puche toh apna toh yahi hobby hai...... but as soon as you come to serious business.. ye saab chorna padta hai.... log kehte hai ki is aadat kpo chooro but you couldnt stop yourself.... bad habbits return....
aab mere cls mai hi dekh lo..... teacher sikhante hai.. read with purpose... look forward to your goal... par apna toh nishana hi nahi lag raha... kya batayun bahut buri haalat hai.... aur koi solution bhio nahi lag raha


pehle 10th board mai kam number aaye.. phir history repeated in 12th board.... phir soch abhi dikhata hoon seedha iit mai jaayunga... koi fayada nahi hua... lack of concentration ,,, bad sitting habits.... takinng excessive breaks between studies..... ye saab apna kaam karta hai...
phir socha itme mai kaam nahi chalega..... aab kuch bada karna padega.... maine bola abhi dikhata hoon... seedha delhi university mai top karoonga.... bihar ka jhanda oocha karna hai...par yaha mai iske kareeb tha...par yaha kismat beech mai aa gay... bitch please keh kar usne meri le li.....

par hosla nahi haara bola jab tak hai jaan naam kamana hai jhanda oocha karna hai... aab seedha ias top karoonga... par ssare bad habits peecha nahi chor rahe
1. apan ko ladki chahiye
2. apan ko badhiya khana chahiye
3. apan ko badhiya bistar chahiye
4. apan ko stress free life chahiye
5. apan ko aazadi ko .... freedom.... koi bandhan nahi
6. zyada padhan bhi nahi pare
7. institute k saare bacche apan ki ji hazoori kare
8. apan ko toh sharukh khan "status" chahiye.


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